The Key to A Successful Relationship: It’s Not What You Think

Question: How do couples who BOTH work from home keep the romance alive and resist gauging each other’s eyes out?

Answer: They stop working from home and start coworking.

 

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You might not know this, but Sourced is home to some of Laguna Beach’s hottest couples. 

They’re kind of a source of inspiration in the office (...or, maybe that’s just to little ol’ single me).

All of the couples who work here lease a desk space, which they alternate using. While they’re not typically here at the same time (though sometimes the person not using the desk will come out into the coworking space!) this little cottage and community is like a second shared home to them.

Instead of rambling on, I’m going to let THEM tell you about how working out of Sourced has been a game changer for their work habits and relationships. 

Today on the blog we’re talking to three of the Sourced couples, Felix and Ali, and Heidi and Jamie, and Ed and Lyla all about what it’s like to work at Sourced as a couple.

First up we have Felix and Ali:

What do you both do? 

Felix: I'm a UX designer at Slalom, a tech consulting firm headquartered in Seattle - but I work out of the Irvine office. Ali is a design recruiter at Pinterest, based out of San Francisco but working remotely. And before you ask, yes: we met because she recruited me years ago at a different company :)

Ali: Felix is a liar. I definitely did not recruit him (boundaries people!), but my company did... and we did meet at work... :)

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 How long have you worked at Sourced? 

Coming up on 1 year! How time flies :)

Did one of you start before the other? If so, what was the thing that enticed the other one to join in on the co-working fun?

Felix: I started before Ali. When we first moved to Laguna a little over a year ago, we were both working remotely - and going stir crazy! We'd seen Sourced a few times over the years and wondered what it was. When I finally emailed Michelle, within a week I was in the front room working and meeting folks. Within a month I had my own desk. Now Ali and I share a bigger desk in the back.

Ali: It wasn't so much Felix that got me onboard, as much as the fact that I was starting to have full conversations with our cats. I needed some human interaction, and the cabin fever was really starting to become a problem!

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In what ways have your differences benefited you and/or become an obstacle?

Felix: Just realizing that both of us working out of our tiny 1 bedroom wasn't going to work out was a big first step. I'm a pretty social guy, so having a built in community/family of folks who do different stuff than me has been really great. 

Ali: When we were both trying to work from home, it didn't go great. I am on calls so much of the day, and tend to go hyper-focused in between. Felix can be a bit of a... chatterbox, so having a place to go has been very good for us, and my sanity :). 

Would you recommend sharing an out-of-home co-working space to other couples? Why or why not?

Felix: Totally! I know folks who are able to work together at home, but getting out of your space and meeting people is pretty energizing. It really does depend on the kind of work you do, but I'd say that mixing it up every once in a while can only improve your work and relationship. Besides, working in PJs on the couch at home sounds fun and glamorous, but really isn't all that it's chalked up to be.

Ali: YES. Particularly if you live in under 600 square feet and one of you needs her space... But I also love having a second space to share with Felix. We aren't usually there at the same time, but it's somewhere we can stop by and see each other, accidentally cross paths, and leave each other notes. It really feels like another home for us. 

What do you love most about working at Sourced?

Felix: The people and lovely community Michelle has curated. The beautiful space. The fact that it's 1.5 blocks to my local surf spot :)

Ali: The atmosphere is truly inspiring. It's a place you just want to be, and it's hard to feel stressed in a space like Sourced. It's really become a core part of our social lives, too, and that's pretty special. 

Adorable right? Did their cuteness just leap off the page and make you re-download Bumble? (or...was that just me?) 

 

Second up, we have Jamie and Heidi (as told by Heidi).

 What do you both do? Jamie and I (Heidi) run our leather earring business, Aha Crafted. Jamie is also a graphic designer and owns Jamie Alan Design.

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 How do your schedules and work styles differ? 

I get up at 6 am and go all day. Jamie is a bit more leisurely-- he gets up at eight, works for a couple hours, takes a break around two, and then sometimes works until the night.

Has having a space outside of the home to work been important for you both?  How so?

Yes! We really needed a space outside of our house since we both work from home. Even though we had our own work stations, we could always hear each other on the phone and really needed our own individual spaces. 

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Would you recommend sharing an out-of-home co-working space to other couples? Why or why not?

Yes! It allows you to hang out and enjoy your home together so much more. One of the biggest benefits is getting that time apart from each other. It allows you to not have so much “grey area” between where work ends and play + fun begin.

 

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What do you love most about working at Sourced?

The people we’ve met and the energy that I get from coming here. I feel so much more drab when I work from home. I gain so much more zest and connection when I get up and come into Sourced.

Need I say more?!

 

And finally, we have the latest (and newly wed!) couple addition to the office, Lyla and Ed.

 What do you both do? 

Lyla: We both work in Tech —  I’m a Senior Manager of Demand Generation Marketing at Salesforce and Ed is a Lead Technical Recruiter at Amazon. 

 We met at our first job out of college — and like most post-grad gigs, we weren’t exactly fulfilled or happy in our roles. I ended up landing an incredible job with a tech startup but I couldn’t figure out why I was devastated to resign. My best friend had to spell it out for me — she said “you like this guy, and you are sad to not see him everyday.” She was right and funnily enough, Ed’s best friend had the same conversation with him. We’ve been together ever since.

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Did one of you start before the other? If so, what was the thing that enticed the other one to join in on the co-working fun?

Lyla: I started at Sourced a few months before Ed decided to join. We both came from very collaborative environments back in San Francisco, and I didn’t realize all the benefits of joining Sourced when I signed up. I was getting more out of it than the separation of home and work which was what I initially thought was all I needed. To my surprise, I tapped into a community that fulfilled and energized me — both personally and professionally. 

 We were skeptical at first because we didn’t want to be spending *too much* time together, but we realized it was a nonissue really quickly. Sourced is the perfect environment to collaborate with others (if you’re in the mood) or get laser focused on work (if you’re in the zone). 

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How do your schedules and work styles differ? 

Lyla: I have several meetings throughout the day — video calls specifically. My day is broken up between calls with my team around the world and blocks of time to strategize and execute on our marketing initiatives. I can transition between the two pretty easily and I love working in a buzzy yet productive environment. I love the midday conversation or the quick lunch with a “co-worker.” 

 Ed is definitely most productive in a quiet, focused and distraction-free zone. He doesn’t love transitioning from personal convos to work calls — he’d rather start his day with a coffee and a chat and end it with a surf date. He prefers to socialize on the surfboard, not in the office. Luckily, Sourced is just a 2 minute walk from his favorite beach and our favorite coffee shop, Laguna Coffee — best of both worlds!

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 In what ways have your differences benefited you and/or become an obstacle? 

Lyla: We know we operate differently and thrive in different work environments — we are very different people but with lots of common ground. We love that about each other — I didn’t want to marry someone just like me! 

 

What do you love most about working at Sourced?

 Sourced gives us the opportunity to have it both ways. Working from home together had its challenges because we both work on different wavelengths and that could be frustrating when you want to chat and it’s not reciprocated or on the flip side, if you want to focus on the task at hand without interruption.

 Since joining Sourced, we don’t have that challenge. We leave the house every morning to go to our office space and we have organic opportunities for social interaction before, during, or after work. We feel much more in control of our day — we love that.

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 There you have it! If you and your partner are at home yelling over each other’s conference calls Mon-Fri, a desk space in the cutest,  beachside cottage you’ve ever set foot in just might be the thing that saves your relationship. 

 Because couples that co-work together, stay together ;)

***Update: Since this blog’s original writing date, the author may or may not have found herself coupled up with another co-worker here at Sourced. No Bumble re-download necessary. Who knows? There might just be something in the air here for singles too…

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Written by Devon Walz. In addition to being a content creator for Sourced, Devon is mixed media fine artist and art educator. When she isn’t dreaming up new topics for the Sourced blog or chatting away with her co-workers, you can probably find her covered in paint and jamming out in her Santa Ana art studio. Find her on Instagram @devonwalzart and online at www.devonwalz.com

Why You Should Change Up Your Work Space: Lessons from a Co-Worker’s Field Trip

A couple weeks ago Jaclyn, Michelle and I took a little field trip to Downtown Santa Ana to co-work at our friend, Sarah Cuda’s, space, Batch. 

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A totally different vibe than our beachside cottage, Batch has a very intentional and modern feel, is fully equipped with the MOST comfortable chairs (that roll!), and is complete with a photo room (hello changeable backdrops, perfect lighting and never-ending content creation right at your fingertips ). 

You might be wondering: But why you would ever leave Sourced.? After all-- it’s pretty much the co-working space of your dreams. 


Well, here’s the thing: no matter how great your workspace might be, changing up your environment is a surefire way to get new ideas and fresh perspective, and boost your productivity. 

We started the day at Hopper and Burr, a killer coffee shop down the street, then headed to Batch for a morning of brainstorming and planning. After that we zoned into our own projects for about an hour (cracking jokes in-between keystrokes) then broke out for lunch at Alta Baja Market.


Was changing up our routine of eating at Active Culture a nice break? Um YES. And even though we LOVE Laguna Coffee Company, did we also enjoy some new barista eye candy? Yes. Yes we did. 

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After lunch we ventured to my art studio for a mini tour, which just happens to be a few blocks away, then finished out the afternoon in work mode back at Batch. Jac took a call in their meeting room while Michelle and I powered out a few newsletters. 

While I left the day with my typical work tasks complete, I also walked away feeling like I had done something really fun and different (and might I even say, adventurous) with my day. 

This isn’t a small thing when you work for yourself. Bringing fun into the work week and infusing new energy into what you do is REALLY important.

The amount of new energy you bring new to your day-to-day might be the difference between just going through the motions and receiving inspiration for a game-changing course of action in your business.

Not Google searching exciting places to post up with your laptop yet? Here’s the short hand of why you should make a point to get down to business in new spaces:

  • A chance to meet and mingle (and possibly network!) with a new community

  • Inspiration and energy from from doing your work in a new environment

  • Treating yourself to a change in lunch and coffee (seriously...a huge pro)

  • Feeling like you did something new and fun, when really you were getting your work done as per usual!

A big thanks to Batch for hosting the Sourced crew for the day. We’ll definitely be back!

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Written by Devon Walz. In addition to being a content creator for Sourced, Devon is mixed media fine artist and art educator. When she isn’t dreaming up new topics for the Sourced blog or chatting away with her co-workers, you can probably find her covered in paint and jamming out in her Santa Ana art studio. Find her on Instagram @devonwalzart and online at www.devonwalz.com.

Self-Help Books That Won't Make Your Eyes Roll: The Co-Worker's List

Self-Help Books That Won’t Make Your Eyes Roll: The Co-Worker’s List

Confession: I’m a self-help junkie. When I was growing up my Dad would make us listen to “Think and Grow Rich,” on cassette tape in the car, gift all four children his annual book of choice at Christmas, and frame excerpts from “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” and put them around the house.

 I rolled my eyes at the time, but--what can I say--his thirst for being the best “you” you can be rubbed off on me. 

There’s been many times in my life when the right self-help book shifted me out of a funk, or given me the exact inspiration I needed to go after what I wanted (in relationships, business, personal healing and beyond).

 While there’s so many great books out there, what I’ve learned is that it’s really about picking up the right book at the right time. And with the overabundance of preachy texts lurking the shelves, it can be hard to tell what’s total BS and what’s filled with motivational gold that was meant for you.

Fear not my growth-hungry friend! I’ve compiled a list of the co-worker’s favorite here at Sourced. On this list you’ll find something for all personality types, reading styles and self-help needing moments in life.

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SOURCED. community library (and many oracle decks)

1) “Journey To the Heart” by Melody Bettie 

Recommended by Heidi Dametz.  Designer and Co-founder at Aha Crafted Jewelry.

“This is a daily meditation book. The passages are dated for a full year and they are just under a page long. I try to read it daily. I’ve had it for 6 years. She has a way of putting a thought or idea that I think most people struggle with and offers a soft/gentle way for your mind and soul to embrace it.”

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2) "Thinking with Type" by Ellen Lupton

Recommended by Jaclyn Florescio. Illustrator and graphic artist.

“When I need guidance about typography or graphic design, this is my go-to book.  "It's not a book about fonts, it's about how to use them." It provides examples, explanations and exercises that have helped me tremendously.”

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3) “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer” and  4) “Notes to Myself” by Hugh Prather 


Recommended by Makenna Zur Schmiede. Actress and Yoga Instructor at Bala Shala Yoga.

“Rather than notating, I recommend with these books coming back to them every once in a while. Letting each new version of you get excited and inspired all over again.” 

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5) “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho

Recommended by Gianfranco Pagliara. Remote Sales Manager at Direct Med.

“This book taught me that there is a world out there to be explored and to break past the status quo. Sometimes you have to take a risk (which is how I’m now out here in Cali!)”

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6) “White Hot Truth” by Danielle Laporte

Recommended by Devon Walz (yours truly!). Artist and Creative Mentor. 

“This is spirituality and self-help for those who are sick of the BS being floated around in spirituality and self-help. Danielle goes into all topics that are medicine for the heart, while calling out what’s been toxifying the self-help world. I recommend it for anyone who wants to reconnect with truth, with themselves and with the divine in a refreshingly real way. 

I recommend one quick read to soak it all in and then returning with a highlighter to capture the gems.”

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7) “You Are a Badass” by Jenn Scincero 

Recommended by Sharael Kolberg. Web Developer and Travel Writer.

All the personal development fundamentals with a no-bs, ass-kicking twist. Jenn’s writing style will ensure you keep the pages turning and her wisdom is on point. A great read for when you need that real deal pep talk!

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Soak in one or more of these bad boys and you’re sure to hit your next level before Halloween. Sourced guaranteed. Enjoy!

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Written by Devon Walz. In addition to being a content creator for Sourced, Devon is mixed media fine artist and art educator. When she isn’t dreaming up new topics for the Sourced blog or chatting away with her co-workers, you can probably find her covered in paint and jamming out in her Santa Ana art studio. Find her on Instagram @devonwalzart and online at www.devonwalz.com









The Top 5 Best Things About Co-Working

Before working at Sourced, I either felt chained to my home office (aka the tiny desk in my bedroom) or constantly scrambling to find the perfect coffee shop (comfortable chairs, outlets, always a space, decently quiet, not Starbucks, great wifi...it doesn’t exist). 

Since becoming a Sourced member I can’t believe I waited this long to start co-working. However, I think the reason it took me so long to jump on that bandwagon is I didn’t realize what I was missing out on. It’s hard to put your finger on what’s been lacking until you’ve found it.  

So I thought I’d break it down for you.

Here are my favorite things about CO-WORKING (and why you need to start co-working, too). 

  1. Reason To Get Dressed

If you go to a job, you might not get this one. But for the rest of you entrepreneurs and freelancers, you KNOW how easy it is to stay in your pajamas and how much you miss having a reason to put on an outfit (the grocery store is simply not motivating enough-- am I right? ). I love having a reason to get ready and show up as I the kind of person I’d like to be in my business. But beyond just feeling cute, this actually has an effect on how I see myself as a business owner. And a human. 

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Photo by Riley Starr

2. Laguna Beach Life


Obviously, this is only a benefit if you co-work at Sourced, but it’s been huge for me! Not only is Sourced itself the most adorable, love-filled beach cottage you’ll ever set foot in, but it simply cannot be separated from the fact that it’s one block from the beach. And a stone’s throw away from from my favorite coffee shop. And from my two favorite places to grab lunch (The Stand and Active Culture). Where you spend your time matters. It affects your productivity AND your joy.

3. Networking

While this isn’t my favorite word it IS important as a small business owner and it’s been one of the biggest benefits of co-working for me. Not to mention, this is NOT something you get from your local coffee shop (...or bedroom for that matter). 

New business often comes from people you already have some kind of connection with. When someone needs a logo designed, who are they going to turn to or refer out? The fun friend they sit next to all day or a random designer off Yelp? Without IRL connections, you’re likely going to have a hard time staying afloat. 

4.   Liking What You Do For Work WAY More

Did you know there was a study done that showed that those who have a best friend at work are seven times as likely to be engaged in their jobs, produce higher quality work, and are way happier? It showed that who you work with is a bigger factor in liking your job than what your job actually is.

If you’ve been a freelancer or business owner for awhile, you know it can be just as isolating as it is freeing. Co-working brings back into balance what you lack when you work for yourself: other people! Yes, as covered in #3 is this important for networking. But it’s also important for ENJOYING that independent lifestyle you probably dreamed about for so long. You need jokes and side convos and group coffee breaks-- not just 1-on-1 hours with a screen. It helps your productivity tons and allows you to work longer days, too.

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Photo by Mary Hurlbut

5.  Support

Similar (but different) to  #3 and #4, another thing co-working brings to the table are people who can offer you help, feedback, encouragement and support. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked Riley, our photographer,  for help with Photoshop, or Jaclyn, an illustrator and designer, for a second opinion on business cards. In a co-working space you have access to people with a whole variety of specializations and skills, allowing you to up-level in ways you couldn’t of on your own. It also gives YOU the chance to lend a helping hand with what you do best, too. Again, your business and your happiness will be better for it.

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Photo by Riley Starr

So there you have it-- 5 reasons to get your booty in community and start working alongside to people that help you out and make you laugh on a regular basis.

Want to find the RIGHT space for you and what you do? Try it out first! Go to an event or get a day pass.  Different spaces draw in different crowds. Since most these benefits listed have to do with the people you work next to, it’s important to find a space and a vibe that resonates with you. That’s also to say that if you’ve tried out a co-working space before and you didn’t feel very at home, it very well could’ve just been that office space. 

And if you need a little nudge in the right direction, I can tell you right now that if warm, supportive, welcoming energy is your thing and you don’t mind being next to one of the most beautiful beaches in the world, SOURCED. is probably your place.

Happy Co-Working!

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Written by Devon Walz. In addition to being a content creator for Sourced, Devon is mixed media fine artist and art educator. When she isn’t dreaming up new topics for the Sourced blog or chatting away with her co-workers, you can probably find her covered in paint and jamming out in her Santa Ana art studio. Find her on Instagram @devonwalzart and online at www.devonwalz.com